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Choosing someone to be your power of attorney agent is one of the most important decisions you'll make in estate planning. This person will have the authority to make critical decisions on your behalf if you become unable to do so yourself. Think of it like choosing someone to be your voice when you can't speak for yourself.
The decision shouldn't be taken lightly. Your agent will handle everything from paying your bills to making healthcare decisions. You want someone who knows you well and will act in your best interests.
What Does a Power of Attorney Agent Do?
A power of attorney agent steps into your shoes when you can't make decisions. There are two main types of power of attorney:
Financial Power of Attorney: This person manages your money and property. They can pay bills, manage investments, handle banking, and make financial decisions. If you're in the hospital for weeks, they might pay your mortgage and manage your retirement accounts.
Healthcare Power of Attorney: This agent makes medical decisions when you can't. They work with doctors, choose treatments, and ensure your healthcare wishes are followed. They might decide on surgery options or end-of-life care. Understanding the difference between these roles is crucial when selecting the right person for each responsibility, especially when it comes to making critical medical decisions that could involve informed consent processes.
You can choose the same person for both roles or select different agents for each responsibility.
Essential Qualities to Look For
The right agent needs specific qualities that go beyond just being family or a close friend.
Trustworthiness: This is non-negotiable. Your agent will have access to your bank accounts and personal information. They need to be someone with unquestionable integrity. Ask yourself: would you trust this person with your life savings?
Good Decision-Making Skills: Your agent should be level-headed and thoughtful. They'll face tough choices under pressure. You want someone who thinks things through rather than making impulsive decisions. This becomes particularly important when dealing with complex financial transactions or when your agent needs to act with proper fiduciary duty in managing your affairs.
Financial Responsibility: For financial power of attorney, choose someone who manages their own money well. If your brother always overspends and has debt problems, he might not be the best choice for managing your finances.
Availability and Accessibility: Your agent needs to be reachable when needed. Someone who travels constantly for work or lives far away might struggle to handle urgent situations quickly.
Understanding of Your Values: The best agents know what matters to you. They understand your beliefs about money, healthcare, and life decisions. This knowledge helps them make choices you would approve of.
Family Considerations
Many people automatically think of family members first. While family can be great choices, it's not always the case.
Spouse or Partner: Your spouse often knows you best and shares your values. However, consider their age, health, and ability to handle stress. If you're both elderly, your spouse might face their own health challenges. Additionally, in some states, there may be automatic rights that apply to spouses, but having clear documentation prevents confusion and ensures your wishes are properly understood by medical professionals and financial institutions.
Adult Children: Kids can be excellent agents, especially if they're financially savvy and live nearby. But family dynamics matter significantly in these situations. If your children don't get along, choosing one over others could create conflict that extends far beyond the immediate decision-making needs.
Siblings: A responsible sibling who knows your values well might be perfect. But consider their life situation carefully. A sibling dealing with their own health issues or family crises might be overwhelmed by the additional responsibility.
Professional Agents
Sometimes the best choice isn't a family member or friend. Professional agents include attorneys, accountants, or trust companies.
Benefits: Professionals bring expertise and objectivity to the role. They won't be emotionally overwhelmed during difficult times, which can be crucial when making challenging decisions. They understand legal requirements and financial management, and they're familiar with complex regulations that might affect your estate or healthcare decisions.
Drawbacks: Professional agents charge fees and don't know your personal values as well as family might. They make decisions based on standard practices rather than intimate knowledge of your wishes. However, their objectivity can sometimes be an advantage, particularly in situations where family emotions might cloud judgment.
Consider professionals if you don't have family members who are suitable, or if your estate is complex enough to benefit from professional expertise.
Red Flags to Avoid
Some people should not be your agent, regardless of your relationship with them.
Avoid anyone with addiction problems, whether it's gambling, drugs, or alcohol. These issues can impair judgment and create temptation to misuse your assets. Even if someone is in recovery, consider whether they have the stability and support system needed for this responsibility.
Don't choose someone with serious financial problems. A person struggling with debt might be tempted to "borrow" from your accounts, even with good intentions. This creates a conflict of interest that could put your assets at risk.
Skip anyone who lives very far away unless they can truly be available when needed. Managing someone's affairs long-distance is challenging and may require frequent travel or local representatives to handle urgent matters.
Avoid people who don't respect your values or wishes. If someone constantly argues with your decisions now, they're unlikely to honor your preferences as your agent. This is particularly important for healthcare decisions where personal beliefs about treatment options may vary significantly.
Special Considerations for Different Life Stages
Your choice of agent might vary depending on your current life stage and circumstances.
Young Adults: Parents often make sense as agents for young adults who are just starting their careers. However, as you establish yourself professionally and financially, you might want to transition to a spouse or trusted friend who better understands your current lifestyle and goals.
Middle Age: This is often when people have the most complex considerations. You might have aging parents, young children, and significant assets to manage. Your agent needs to understand your priorities across all these responsibilities.
Senior Years: Older adults often benefit from choosing younger agents who will likely outlive them. However, ensure these younger agents have the maturity and capability to handle the responsibility effectively.
The Conversation
Before naming someone as your agent, have an honest conversation with them. This isn't a decision to spring on someone without warning.
Explain what the role involves and what your expectations are. Discuss your values, preferences, and any specific wishes you have. Make sure they're willing and able to take on this responsibility, and that they understand the legal implications of serving as your agent.
Ask about their comfort level with different aspects of the role. Some people are great with finances but uncomfortable making healthcare decisions, or vice versa. It's better to know these limitations upfront rather than discover them during a crisis.
Backup Plans
Always name alternate agents. Your first choice might become unavailable due to illness, death, or other circumstances.
List your alternates in order of preference. Make sure each backup agent meets the same criteria as your primary choice. Having multiple backups ensures someone will always be available to help when you need it most.
Regular Review and Updates
Your choice of agent should be reviewed periodically. People change, circumstances evolve, and relationships shift over time.
Consider reviewing your power of attorney documents every few years or after major life events like marriage, divorce, births, deaths, or significant changes in family dynamics. What made sense five years ago might not be the best choice today.
Making the Final Decision
After considering all factors, trust your instincts. Choose the person who best combines trustworthiness, capability, and knowledge of your values.
Remember that you can change your agent anytime by creating new power of attorney documents. Your choice doesn't have to be permanent if circumstances change or if you realize your initial selection isn't working out as expected.
Consider splitting responsibilities if one person isn't ideal for both financial and healthcare decisions. You might choose your financially savvy sister for money matters and your compassionate brother for healthcare choices. This approach allows you to match each person's strengths with the appropriate responsibilities.
Getting Professional Help
Creating power of attorney documents requires legal precision and understanding of state-specific requirements. Work with an estate planning attorney to ensure your documents are valid and properly reflect your wishes.
An attorney can also help you think through scenarios you might not have considered and ensure your agent has the right level of authority for your situation. They can explain the differences between general and limited powers of attorney, and help you structure the document to match your specific needs and concerns.
Conclusion
Choosing a power of attorney agent is about finding someone who combines trustworthiness, competence, and deep understanding of your values. Take time to evaluate your options carefully, have honest conversations with potential agents, and don't be afraid to seek professional guidance. The right choice will give you peace of mind knowing someone you trust will advocate for your interests when you need it most. Remember, this decision reflects your values and priorities, so choose someone who will honor both your practical needs and your personal beliefs when making decisions on your behalf.
